PUBLIC SPEAKING TIPS

Learning the Language

If body language doesn’t match words, it makes us feel uncomfortable even if we can’t identify why. Dr Desmond Morris, the world-famous animal and people watcher, calls these incongruities ‘non-verbal leakage’, the failure of our social ‘mask’, and being able to spot them can help us to make much more sense of our interactions.

Watching other people’s body language can also help your own self-image. ‘The main problem when people are insecure or lack self-esteem is that they imagine everyone else is secure,’ he says. ‘If you spot the tricks someone is using to intimidate you, they seem less threatening.’

So body language tactics are not to hide these signs of tension, but to gain mastery and confidence over the environment, to spot when others are being threatening or belittling, and take counter-measures.

10 TIPS FOR PUBLIC SPEAKING

                Feeling some nervousness before giving a speech is natural and even beneficial, but too much nervousness can be detrimental. Here are some proven tips on how to control your butterflies and give better presentations:

1. Know your material. Pick a topic you are interested in. Know more about it than you include in your speech. Use humor, personal stories and conversational language – that way you won’t easily forget what to say.

2. Practice. Practice. Practice! Rehearse out loud with all equipment you plan on using. Revise as necessary. Work to control filler words; Practice, pause and breathe. Practice with a timer and allow time for the unexpected.

SAMPLE OBITUARY NOTICE

John Armstrong, New York, 47, died Friday 12:14, July 9, 2040, at his home, after a long battle with bone cancer.

He left his wife of 42, Mary; his son, his daughter, his three grandchildren and many close friends.

Born in New York, but raised in Los Angeles, he spent two third of his life in Los Angeles. He started his education in New York Elementary school, and then he continued in Granada Hills Charter Elementary School and Susan Miller Dorsey High School. After graduating from high school he attended to English Language Teaching department in Oxford University.

GOLDEN RULES OF COMMUNICATION

The five golden rules of communication give us a clue what we should do for effective communication. The first one “You create your own experience” makes us understand why we must be accountable for our life. If we are accountable for our life, good or bad; successful or unsuccessful; happy or sad; fair or unfair, we can solve our problems easily, because we will know where the problem stems from. And, if we want to be successful about something, we must encourage ourselves to achieve it. So, this rule teaches us accountability has important role in our life.

The second rule “You get what you give” reminds us the link of action and reaction. There are numerous styles, ways and levels we deal with others, and we may choose different ones in various situations.

PERSONAL VALUATION

We use limitless manners, styles and levels to deal with other people and generally we choose one of them in diverse situations. When dealing with people, these styles will determine how they respond to us.

There are some kinds of these styles that we can find ourselves in: The Porcupine, they walk into every situation expecting to be offended; King or Queen of the Forest: they are legends in their own minds; The Poser: their goal is looking better than the others; People-Eater: they want to control everyone and everything; Drama Queen: every event in their life is extraordinary; Scarlet O’Hara: they choose not to deal with difficulties when faced with them;