PERSONAL VALUATION

We use limitless manners, styles and levels to deal with other people and generally we choose one of them in diverse situations. When dealing with people, these styles will determine how they respond to us.

There are some kinds of these styles that we can find ourselves in: The Porcupine, they walk into every situation expecting to be offended; King or Queen of the Forest: they are legends in their own minds; The Poser: their goal is looking better than the others; People-Eater: they want to control everyone and everything; Drama Queen: every event in their life is extraordinary; Scarlet O’Hara: they choose not to deal with difficulties when faced with them;
Victim: they aren’t accountable for anything; Einstein Analyzers: they dissect every situation to the point of complete tedium; The Mask: they try to hide something in their life; Perfecto: They assume that only themselves have to be perfect; Chicken Little: they are anxious and urgent; Guilt monger: they use guilt as a weapon to control and keep down on others.

We may find ourselves through these examples or at least find our style of interacting with others. One of the styles of engagement above generally describes me, it is Scarlet O’Hara. Like the Scarlet O’Hara, I choose not to deal with difficulties when I face them. I always say “I’ll think about that tomorrow, I’ll do it anytime in the future.”, but sometimes I can’t deal with issues that I postponed.

These all styles are related to our personalities. According to Myers and Briggs, there are 16 different personality types which are defined by four different dichotomies; Extraversion and Introversion, Sensing and İntuition, Thinking and Feeling, Judging and Perceiving. These types only indicate an individual's preferences in everyday life, they don’t measure aptitude. Extraversion (E) and Introversion (I) are typically thought of as attitudes. Sensing (S) and İntuition (N), Thinking (T) and Feeling (F) are functions. Everybody has one dominant function. Judging (J) and Perceiving (P) are lifestyle functions that are used in relation to relating with the outside world. Among these attitudes, functions and lifestyles; Extraversion, Sensing, Thinking and Perceiving are defining my personality type. Its shortcut is ESTP. It is also named as Promoter. According to some resources Winston Churchill, Ernest Hemingway, John F. Kennedy and Madonna are promoters as well.

On many issues, I have same properties common with the promoters. As an illustration of these; People with the ESTP personality type, we, are directive and expressive when communicating with people. Our charisma and enthusiasm make us adept public speakers, but sometimes we are unaware of the impact that our actions and comments have upon the feelings of those around us.

We're unusually quick thinkers who can review immediate circumstances and make fast decisions. We are remarkably innovative, effective and practical in these situations that require fast thinking and quick action. We’re not inclined to spend time analyzing a situation. Instead, our decisions and actions are based upon our understanding of the facts at hand. We focus our attention on the details rather than the big picture and on immediate realities rather than future possibilities. We are more concrete than abstract. We rely on objective criteria rather than personal values. We are active people who want to solve our problems rather than simply discuss them. We have well-honed improvisational skills that allow us to respond to situations more quickly than our peers. Due to our natural competitiveness and improvisational ability, we often find success in sales positions. Actually, our goal in life is to sell our ideas to others.

We have a natural exuberance and find great joy in immersing themselves into situations that pose a level of risk. Our fondness for acting in the presence of risk makes us uniquely qualified for getting projects launched. Despite our strengths in taking risks and acting decisively, we often leave unfinished business behind us.

We are one of the most spontaneous types and are simultaneously exciting and challenging to be around. We display an energetic nature that can inspire others, and we also resourceful, knowing where the fun and the action are. Our tendency to live in the moment drives us to find new challenges, while existing projects bore us. We are hands-on learners who live in the moment, seeking the best in life, wanting to share it with our friends. We are gifted at earning others' with the help of our charming, witty, fun and debonair characteristics.

We are also unpredictable, sophisticated, observant, action oriented, generous, socially, troubleshooter, clever and creative person.  If we can find a way to harness our energy and creativity, and work closely with others to bring projects to completion, we can achieve a lasting success.